Building a custom home taught me everything. And not all of it was cute. Here’s what I learned — no shade, but some shade: 1. Most men assume women don’t know nails, screws, or structure. If you’re a woman building, establish your authority immediately. Set expectations early — with every single sub. 2. Trust, but verify. Men lie when they think you don’t know. And when you catch it, suddenly you’re “difficult.” Bad information leads to bad decisions — and very uncomfortable days on a job site. And remember… this is my house. I have to live here. 3. If money allows, build it exactly how you want the first time. This process is expensive — more than you think. Never trust anyone’s numbers but your own. 4. Cheaper always exists. The real question is: will you be happy with the result? Ask why it’s cheaper. Every time. 5. Never feel bad for speaking up. It’s your home. They work for you. I didn’t build this house to be quiet. I built it my way. Just remember not all subs are created equal. Some bring craftsmanship. Some bring excuses. Only hire the exceptional ones.