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🧥 Winter Style Tip of the Day

We’ve been taught to build winter outfits from the inside out.
European women do the opposite.

This look shows the coat-first method in action: structure on the outside, ease underneath, and no overthinking. It’s not tighter or trend-driven — it’s calm, confident, and designed for real winter life.

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🧥 Winter Style Tip of the Day We’ve been taught to build winter outfits from the inside out. European women do the opposite. This look shows the coat-first method in action: structure on the outside, ease underneath, and no overthinking. It’s not tighter or trend-driven — it’s calm, confident, and designed for real winter life.

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Fine-knit ruched blouse | Mango (US/MX/AU)

A&F Sloane Tailored Wide Leg Pant | Abercrombie & Fitch (US)

The Midi Hudson | Mocha Suede & Mocha Smooth | DeMellier | DeMellier

Women's Selection Wool Overcoat | Macy's

✨ Winter Style Tip of the Day: To Tuck or NOT to Tuck… That Is the Question

We’ve spent a lot of time on this channel talking about how to wear tops untucked and unbelted — and yet, more than half of the outfit photos sent in by our community are tucked and belted.
Both are correct.

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🗳️What content are you willing to support (Watch • Like • Share) this January? Vote below:

✨ Everyday Fashion
❄️ Winter Layers
👚 No Tuck Tops
🌿 More Wellness

🎥 I'll create what you show up for.

🙅🏼‍♀️ In case you are wondering, I don’t create much fashion content in January because people just aren’t interested in winter fashion.

🤍This channel grows based on what YOU show up for.
If fashion content feels helpful, inspiring, or confidence-boosting for you, watching, liking, and sharing the video lets me know to keep going in this direction.

💸 But if it's not supported, I'm not going to keep spending money on creating fashion content until Spring fashion rolls around. (It costs an exorbitant amount of money for me to create fashion content.)

Your support helps shape the future of this space — and I’m so grateful for this community. 🤍
- Valarie

#womenover40 #womenover50 #menopause #perimenopause

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🚫 Eating less backfires in menopause.

🧠 Restriction raises cortisol
🍽️ Undereating disrupts blood sugar
⚠️ Your metabolism slows to protect you
🔁 Years of dieting train your body to resist weight loss

That’s why so many women say:
“I’m eating less than ever — and gaining weight.”

✨ This is fixable. Just not by eating less.

#LTKOver40 #LTKActive #LTKfitnessgoals

Napa Comfort Chic: tie waist sweater + viral yoga pants 🍷

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Comfort Chic 🤍

This is my favorite place to live style-wise — where comfort and chic coexist beautifully.

A soft tie-waist sweater gives shape without restriction.
Dressy yoga pants move with you, not against you.
Low leopard heels add just enough personality without overpowering the outfit.

One of my favorite rules for women 45+: keep prints in the accessories.
It keeps the look modern, intentional, and effortless.

Style isn’t about suffering for fashion — it’s about choosing pieces that support you while still feeling polished.

Comfort and chic aren’t opposites.
They’re partners.

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Napa Day 3 style = comfort that still looks polished. A soft waist-defining sweater paired with the viral dressy yoga pants is the kind of outfit that carries you through wineries, long lunches, and unforgettable dinners—without ever feeling restricted.

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Style doesn’t have to wait for weight loss. This look pairs viral yoga pants with a softly tied sweater to create comfort and definition—perfect for travel days, warm winter weather, and real life (hello 70° Napa days 🍷).

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Headed to Napa and this is the exact outfit formula I packed: a soft, comfortable Amazon sweater + the viral Amazon yoga pants. Easy, chic, and perfect for long travel days, wine tastings, and dinners that linger. 🍷

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Dressy yoga pants to accommodate the perimenopause and menopause body while you work on your January wellness goals!

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Winter white isn’t bold — it’s intentional. 🤍. This outfit shows how dressing in monochrome instantly elevates your look, simplifies getting dressed, and quietly fights the frump without trying too hard.

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☕️ TIP 5: I Swapped Regular Coffee for Mushroom Adaptogen Coffee

I have linked to some other brands of mushroom coffee below. These are not the brands that I used, so read the reviews first.

I love coffee. But in midlife… traditional coffee wasn’t loving me back.

🚨 Regular coffee can: • Spike cortisol • Increase hunger • Trigger that mid-morning “what can I snack on?” feeling

🌿 Switching to mushroom adaptogen coffee changed everything.

✨ It helped: • Control hunger and cravings • Support blood sugar and hormones • Give me something warm and grounding in the morning

🤍 It felt supportive instead of stimulating — and that matters in perimenopause and menopause.

💫 The result? I’m now two weeks without traditional coffee… and 10 pounds down in December.

This isn’t about giving things up. It’s about choosing what works with your body.

🎉🥳Cheers to WELLNESS in 2026!
Valarie

#WeightLossOver40 #WomenOver40
#menopausebelly
#MidlifeWomen #WellnessOver40

#LTKActive #LTKOver40 #LTKfitnessgoals

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✨ At 51, I finally lost the menopause belly — ✨ and it wasn’t from extreme diets, fasting longer, or working harder.

⚠️ In fact, those things were making it worse.

🧠 Here’s what most women aren’t told: 🔹 The menopause belly is driven by blood sugar crashes 🔹 Those crashes trigger cortisol spikes 🔹 Cortisol tells your body to store fat right here 👇

🤍 Once I stopped fighting my body and started supporting it, everything changed:
✔️ BYE BYE BELLY!
✔️ Stable blood sugar ✔️ Better sleep (goodbye 3AM wake-ups) ✔️ Less bloating ✔️ A calmer nervous system

🎥 I explain exactly what worked — and what to stop doing — in today’s YouTube video.

💬 SAY BELLY if you can relate!

🎉🥳Cheers to WELLNESS in 2026!
Valarie

#LTKOver40 #LTKActive #LTKPetite

TIP 4: I Drank a Greens Drink Before Lunch and Dinner

🍽️ This was a game-changer for my midlife weight loss — especially during the holidays.

✨ Drinking a greens drink before my two biggest meals helped me: • Feel full faster • Reduce sugar cravings • Completely tame the holiday munchies

🚫 This is not a shortcut. 🚫 It’s not an appetite suppressant trick.

🤍 I see this as support.

🥰 When my body gets the nutrients it actually needs, it stops screaming for sugar, snacks, and “just one more bite.”

🌿 This is what sustainable weight loss over 45 really looks like: ✔️Nourishment before willpower ✔️Support before restriction ✔️Calm blood sugar instead of cravings

💚 If you’re dealing with menopause cravings, evening snacking, or feeling out of control around food — this is a simple place to start.

🚨 PS: NEW LONG VIDEO just dropped: Stop Following This Weight Loss Advice After 45 — IT’S ALL WRONG! 
🎉🥳Wishing you wellness in 2026,
Valarie

#WeightLossOver40 #WomenOver40
#menopausebelly
#MidlifeWomen #WellnessOver40

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Winter Style Tip: Elegance That Keeps You Warm

One of the quiet secrets to winter style is choosing pieces that look polished while working for your body. These tailored trousers are a perfect example. They create clean lines and an elegant silhouette — but underneath, I’m wearing fleece-lined tights for warmth and comfort.

This is where style becomes practical without losing its charm. When warmth is built in invisibly, you don’t have to sacrifice elegance to stay comfortable. You simply show up feeling confident, supported, and put-together.

Winter chic doesn’t have to be cold. 
The most elegant outfits are often the ones that care for you the most.

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January style reminder 🤍 Your wardrobe doesn’t have to pause while you work on yourself. Comfort and chic can exist in the same outfit—soft knits, fluid pants, and clean lines make all the difference.
Style isn’t a reward for later. It’s self-respect right now.

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Demellier Hudson Minibag… my Black Friday present to myself!

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✨ Post-Holiday Outfit of the Day ✨ Yes — this is a no-tuck top with yoga pants. And yes — it’s doing exactly what post-holiday style should do: support you.

Style doesn’t pause while you’re “working on yourself.” You don’t have to wait until your body changes to get dressed with care. Clothes can meet you where you are — comfortably, confidently, and without punishment.

#LTKSeasonal #LTKOver40 #LTKPetite

🐟 TIP 3: Eat More Fish (Midlife Weight Loss Secret)

When I’m trying to lose weight — especially in midlife — fish becomes my best friend.
🥗 Shrimp 🐟 Real tuna 🧂 Smoked salmon

There’s a long-standing rule bodybuilders swear by: ✔️ Red meat once a week ✔️ Fish twice a week

And during December? I leaned into it.

✨ Why fish works so well for women over 40: • Lighter and easier to digest • High in protein, lower in calories • Supports fat loss without feeling heavy or bloated • Gentle on hormones and blood sugar

🚫 This is NOT about cutting food. 🚫 It’s NOT about eating less. 🤍 It’s about choosing foods that work with your body, not against it.

🌿 This is what midlife wellness looks like: ✔️ Support over deprivation ✔️ Nourishment over punishment ✔️ Consistency over extremes

If you’re struggling with menopause weight gain, belly fat, or feeling bloated and stuck — start here. Simple shifts add up.

PS: 🚨 NEW LONG VIDEO just dropped: Stop Following This Weight Loss Advice After 45 — IT’S ALL WRONG! On YouTube 
Wishing you wellness in 2026,
Valarie

#LTKOver40 #LTKselfcare #LTKfitnessgoals

✨ Winter Outfit of the Day ✨
Cozy sweater + jeans + ankle boots — simple, warm, and surprisingly powerful when styled with intention.

#LTKPetite #LTKSeasonal #LTKOver40

You deserve to feel comfortable and chic right now — not 10 pounds from now. Yes — these are the viral yoga pants again, styled with intention and elegance. When you pair comfortable, forgiving pieces with clean lines and a refined palette, they read elegant, not casual. Style doesn’t disappear on imperfect days — it adapts.

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🪞I want to be very clear and transparent.

🙄I am NOT on any form of medically assisted weight loss.
💉I have NEVER been on a GLP-1.

💌 Over a year ago, I shared *privately* with our group that during an extremely stressful period in my law career, I briefly used a very low dose of medically assisted weight loss (NOT GLP-1) to help break through a period of stress-induced weight gain. It lasted six weeks—and I have not used it in over 16 months.

🌿What you’re seeing now is NOT the result of medication.

It is the result of:
✨ supporting my blood sugar
✨ supporting my hormones
✨ calming my nervous system
✨ choosing gentle, sustainable wellness

💁🏼‍♀️I want to be clear about one more thing:
🙌🏼I am 100% SUPPORTIVE of medically assisted weight loss. It has helped many women and solved real health issues for many people. If you are on a medically assisted weight loss, I am cheering you on and here to support you!

🍃I simply discovered that I didn’t need it—because I learned how to support my body in a way that works long-term, without pharmaceuticals. 💊💉

🚫No deprivation.
🚫No punishment.
✅Just giving my body what it needs.

🤍 This is the approach I share here:
📉10 Pounds Down in December
🌿Naturally
🫣… and a photo of no-makeup me post-workout with a messy bun.

🥳Cheering us ALL on in 2026,
Valarie

#WeightLossOver40 #WomenOver40
#menopausebelly
#MidlifeWomen #WellnessOver40

#LTKselfcare #LTKOver40 #LTKfitnessgoals

There is no tuck top is a good one and it’s 30% off!

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✨ Down 10 pounds in December — as of this morning.

💁🏼‍♀️And here’s the truth people who’ve never lost a significant amount of weight don’t always understand:

You don’t just lose it once.
You work to keep it off.

📉I lost 30 pounds nearly 5 years ago.
And staying here?
That’s been an ongoing, intentional practice.

What I’ve learned along the way — especially in perimenopause and menopause — is this:

What worked in our 20s and 30s?
🚫 Often does the opposite in our 40s, 50s, and 60s.

❌More restriction.
❌Harder workouts.
❌ Less food.
❌ More stress.

🙅🏼‍♀️It doesn’t work anymore.

So I adapt.
✅I listen to my body.
✅ I keep learning.
✅ And I share what actually works — honestly, gently, and in real life.

🗣️We’re talking about this next week.
🌿Because midlife wellness isn’t about fighting your body — it’s about finally supporting it.

🤍 Stay tuned.

#LTKOver40 #LTKfitnessgoals #LTKActive

My 2025 Personal Style Lessons

💬 Which style lesson are you claiming today? 1 2 3 4 or 5

✨ I stopped shrinking to make other people comfortable.
 💖 I wear what makes ME happy.

🛍️ My closet? 👗 It’s my personal boutique.

🎉 I don’t wait for occasions—I create them.
 💃 Dressing up when others don’t? Totally fine.

👠 Also… I’m not ready for the nursing home.
 🔥 I wear heels.

💁🏼‍♀️What about YOU?

🎄Merry Christmas Eve,
Valarie

#FashionOver40 #StyleOver40 #quietluxury #womenover40

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I love my Dyson cordless vacuum so much that I recently bought a second for our upstairs. Amazon has lots of good deals on Dyson vacuums right now for the holidays. PS: Don’t forget those super comfy stretchy yoga pants for AFTER the holidays!

#LTKHoliday #LTKHome #LTKSeasonal

Which number do you agree with most? 👇
1, 2, 3, 4, or 5?

5 things I’ve learned about REAL style

1️⃣ True style can’t be bought. It’s cultivated.
2️⃣ Trends are for little follower girls. Grown women create their own style.
3️⃣ A slightly oversized fit = effortless style.
4️⃣ Prints are for nursing homes & bingo. (Non-negotiable.)
5️⃣ Genuine style comes from presence, not purchases.

If your closet is full but your outfits still feel meh, this is why.
Style isn’t louder. It’s calmer.
It doesn’t chase. It leads.

Save this. Re-read it.
And dress like the woman who walks into the room already knowing she belongs. ✨

#QuietLuxury #EffortlessStyle #womenover40 .

#LTKOver40 #LTKPetite #LTKSeasonal

Amazon Last Minute Holiday DEALS!
- Dyson Air Wrap (never overheats the hair!)
- Dyson V8 Plus Cordless Vacuum (I love my Dyson so much that I bought TWO!)
- Dyson V11 Origin Cordless Vacuum
- Olaplex No.7 Bonding Oil protects and strengthens hair

PS: Don’t forget those super comfy stretchy yoga pants for after the holidays!

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If Your Shoes Hurt, Your Life Feels Harder (Women 40+)

If your shoes hurt, your whole day feels harder.
 That’s why rubber sole loafers are one of my favorite treat-yourself gifts for midlife women.

They’re polished, supportive, and designed for real life — not suffering. No painful break-in. No sacrificing style. Just comfort that lets you move through your day with ease.

This is how Midlife It Girls practice self-care: ✨ Supportive footwear ✨ Timeless, elegant style ✨ Choosing comfort without guilt

🎁 I explain why rubber sole loafers work — and share more thoughtful treat-yourself gift ideas — in my full video.

👉 Watch the full “Treat Yourself Holiday Gifts for Midlife It Girls” video

This Short is for women 40+ who are done choosing pain in the name of fashion and are ready to invest in pieces that truly support their lives.

#WomenOver40 #MidlifeStyle #TreatYourself #ComfortableShoes #MidlifeItGirl #QuietLuxury #SelfCareForWomen #holidaygift #holidaygifts

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Holiday Outfit Anxiety? This Is Why Women 40+ Skip Events

🎄 Holiday outfit anxiety is real — especially for women over 40.

👀 If you’ve ever stared at your closet before a holiday dinner or party wondering “Is this right?”
 🚪 Or worse… decided not to go at all because getting dressed felt overwhelming — you’re not alone.

🧠 The fear isn’t about clothes.
 ✨ It’s about confidence, clarity, and not wanting to get it wrong.

📺 That’s why I created a new Y*T* video, “Holiday Outfit Anxiety? Here’s Why.”
 🔍 In it, I break down the 6 emotional fears that sneak up on us every holiday season, how to combat that anxiety, and what to wear instead so you can show up feeling calm, elegant, and confident.

👠 Because the goal isn’t a perfect outfit.
 🥂 It’s attending the event — and actually enjoying yourself once you’re there.

🎥🍿 Watch the full video on YouTube

💋 With Style + Presence,
Valarie

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