How to have a great relationship with your siblings, according to my 74-year-old Korean mom: lead by example, choose grace, and compromise first. What you model always flows down. In Korean culture, the oldest carries a quiet but heavy responsibility - to protect the relationship. To step up when things get hard, to soften first, and to not let ego break family bonds. It may not be the American way, but it’s how I was raised and many Koreans kids are taught this way — and the older I get, the more I understand the wisdom in it. koreanfamilyvalues siblings familydynamics