LaNolaMom on LTK

Soft living is a protest.

Against survival mode.
Against performing okay when you’re not.
Against grinding yourself to nothing and calling it strength.
It’s choosing rest when the world says hustle.

Protecting your peace like the resource it is.
Saying no to what drains you.
Saying yes to what heals you.

Grief taught me nothing is promised. So I choose soft. Now. Today.

As an act of healing. 💙

Let me know what your soft living looks like today.
Follow for more real life after loss.

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Soft living is a protest. Against survival mode. Against performing okay when you’re not. Against grinding yourself to nothing and calling it strength. It’s choosing rest when the world says hustle. Protecting your peace like the resource it is. Saying no to what drains you. Saying yes to what heals you. Grief taught me nothing is promised. So I choose soft. Now. Today. As an act of healing. 💙 Let me know what your soft living looks like today. Follow for more real life after loss. LTKvlog LTKselfcare LTKstorytime

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Hi, I’m La. 🤍

This space was created in a season where life changed me in ways I never asked for and I’m still learning how to live fully inside the after.

Here you’ll see healing in progress, motherhood in all its tenderness and chaos, and what it looks like to keep choosing life even when it’s hard. Nothing here is polished or perfect. Everything here is honest, real, and shared with care.

If you’re carrying grief, rebuilding, or simply trying to find your footing again, you don’t have to explain yourself here. You’re welcome just as you are.

I’m really glad you’re here. 💙
Stay as long as you need.

#LTKstorytime

Nobody prepares you for the moment you finally decide to pack up the past. 💔

Taking down our 2023 tree after nearly three years was one of the heaviest emotional milestones yet, but it reminded me that our memories live within us, not physical objects. 🕊️✨

If you are navigating a heavy season or clearing out spaces in your own home sanctuary, know that you are not alone. I’m linking my exact heavy-duty holiday storage bins, tree bags, and cozy lounge essentials below. You can also read the full, raw diary entry over on the blog today at lanolamom.com. 📖👇🏾💙

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Our entryway is finally coming together! 💙

This arched mirror and curved console table have completely transformed the energy of our front door. It’s a work in progress, but choosing softness and intention for our home sanctuary has been so healing.

Shop my exact entryway furniture, lantern, and aesthetic styling pieces by clicking the links below 👇🏾✨

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Y’all could never make me hate a crochet braid style! 😂 3 hours in a stylist's chair instead of 10 is how I’m protecting my peace, time, and energy getting ready for my surprise birthday trip. Reclaiming my joy looks like choosing softness, dressing up, and investing in self-care. ✈️✨ My low-maintenance vacation prep essentials, and my complete pre-ready summer travel lookbooks are coming to the blog! 💙

#LTKselfcare #LTKTravel

They don’t tell you about the guilt that comes with the healing, or the quiet panic that finding peace means you’re letting go. But choosing to design a soft, intentional lifestyle isn’t forgetting, it’s honoring the life we still have left to live. 🕊️✨ My exact living room sanctuary details, luxury home items, and the latest raw chapter of the widowhood diaries are all linked over on the blog today at lanolamom.com 📖💙

#LTKselfcare #LTKstorytime #LTKmomlife

A quiet, intentional morning routine with my baby boy. 🧸✨ Braiding his hair is our little daily sanctuary, a moment to slow down, connect, and pour pure love into his spirit. Styling these sweet curls while wearing my favorite cozy, everyday sanctuary basics. 💙

Tap the links below to shop the hair care essentials, tools, and lifestyle pieces featured in today’s routine! 👇🏾🛋️✨

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Creating a soft, quiet sanctuary at home starting from the ground up. 🤎 This Loloi x Chris Loves Julia Polly Collection area rug in Cream/Sand is the ultimate foundation piece. It brings the perfect blend of neutral warmth, transitional modern texture, and cozy durability to the space. It’s incredibly soft underfoot and perfectly anchors a mindful, aesthetic room refresh. Tap below to shop the exact size, color details, and more of my favorite home decor essentials! 🏡🛋️✨💙

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My evening luxury skincare ritual for glass skin. ✨

Taking a quiet moment to pour into my skin barrier and embrace a soft nighttime routine.

All my daily beauty essentials are tagged below. 🧴🧼💙

#LTKselfcare #LTKBeauty

I used to think choosing something beautiful meant I wasn’t still grieving.

But joy after loss isn’t betrayal.
It’s proof that love doesn’t die.
So yes, I packed the matching @Alo Yoga sets.
I grabbed the @beistravel luggage.
And I’m choosing this.
With my whole chest. 💙

Follow along for more widowhood diaries.

#LTKootd #LTKTravel

Grief will make you eat every judgment you ever had.

Every. Single. One.

I used to wonder how people could keep going. Smile so soon.
Choose joy when the world said they shouldn’t. And then loss walked into my house.

And I understood.
You don’t move on.
You move forward.

And those two things are not the same.

Moving on says you left them behind.
Moving forward says you’re carrying them with you.

To anyone choosing life again after loss, I’m proud of you.
And I’m proud of me too. 💙

Drop a 💙 if grief humbled you too. Save and share with someone who needed permission to keep going.

#LTKfitnessgoals #LTKmorningroutine #LTKstorytime

People see her pick things up quickly and call it talent…although it is, what they don’t see is the years behind it.

She’s been dancing with @eyriedanceandtumbling_llc (EDT💕) since she was 7.
Long practices. Repetition. Confidence built one step at a time.

And her Dad?
He was her biggest fan. Her dance Dad.

Sitting and making it through every performance, cheering her on like she was the star every single time. 🥹

So when the theater director said she was a “quick learner”, I smiled with tears in my eyes.

Because she didn’t just learn fast.
She was poured into. She was loved into this.

And a part of him is still showing up in every move she makes. 💙

Tell her she did good…I’m reading her the comments. And to every parent pouring into their babies, this is your reminder it shows.

#LTKmomlife #LTKKids #LTKstorytime

This is your sign to upgrade your travel essentials. @beistravel

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Strong body, soft heart, clear vision. 🧘🏾‍♀️🔥

Monday morning energy! ☀️ There is something about finishing a workout before the rest of the world wakes up that just sets the tone for the entire week.

I’m entering this week focused on my own lane. No chasing, just attracting. No rushing, just intentional movement. Whether it’s in the gym or behind the scenes of my business, the goal is the same: stay consistent and stay present. 🕊️

The work is being done, the growth is happening, and the peace is protected. I've linked my current gym "uniform" below…these leggings are a staple for a reason! 💙

#LTKActive #LTKmorningroutine #LTKfitnessgoals

We’re traveling differently in 2026. ✈️💙

Upgrade your tools, and you upgrade your experience. I finally decided to invest in the Béis travel gear I’ve been eyeing because 'making it work' with broken zippers and zero organization was costing me too much mental energy.

We’re moving with intention this year, from the way we pack to the way we show up in new cities. If it’s not functional and aesthetic, it’s not for me. ✨

I’ve linked my exact travel system and some 'Quiet Phase' travel essentials below! 👇🏾

#LTKHome #LTKTravel #LTKmomlife

Soft life, but make it disciplined. 💪🏾💙

Proof that you can be under construction and still look like the finished product. I’m learning that “Softness” isn’t just about the pink hoodies and the cozy slippers (though they definitely help!). It’s about the discipline of showing up for myself even when the quiet feels heavy.

Today’s uniform:

✨ Movement for my mental health.
✨ Hydration in my favorite carrier.
✨ A nervous system that finally feels safe enough to rest.

We aren’t just checking boxes this week; we’re honoring the woman in the mirror. ✨🥰

Are you choosing movement or rest today? Or are you like me and finding the sweet spot in both? 👇🏾

#LTKActive #LTKfitnessgoals #LTKootd

If the environment isn’t right, the vibe isn't right! 🧖🏾‍♀️ Sunday resets are for more than just cleaning, it’s about that “Healing Through Home” energy. 🌿 Swapped the mismatched bottle clutter for a little spa-day luxury, and honestly? My spirit needed it. ☁️

Everything is linked below in my "Healing Through Home" Essentials collection! 🔗💙

#LTKselfcare #LTKHome #LTKmorningroutine

The ONLY chew that keeps my power chewer busy! 🦴✨

If you have a pup that gets bored easily or chews through toys in minutes, you need to try these @mountainvalleyantlers. 🏔️

Bella is tiny but a total savage power chewer! I love that these are 100% natural elk antlers with no fillers or junk. They are long-lasting, clean, and keep her occupied while I’m working. 💻🐕

She’s such a "lady", she grabbed her bone outside but waited until she was back on her favorite rug to really get to work! 😂

Shop Bella’s favorite long-lasting chews at the link below! 👇🏾

#LTKstorytime #LTKHome #LTKKids

I’m in a season of listening to my body more than I push it.

Small rituals. Gentle support.
Especially in the mornings, especially before I move my body.

Just sharing what I’m trying lately 💙

#LTKfitnessgoals #LTKselfcare #LTKmorningroutine

Every year before my babies wake up, I set up their Valentine’s Day surprises.

Tony and I started this tradition together.
Even though he isn’t here physically, it’s one piece of him I carry forward.

Grief doesn’t erase love.
It teaches you how to live with it.

Some traditions stay because love is bigger than loss. 💙

Sharing a few cozy home favorites that help me create these quiet memory moments.

#LTKstorytime #LTKmomlife #LTKHome

Just part of my morning now.
When something becomes this easy, it actually sticks. No extra effort, just one less thing to think about. 💙

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This wasn’t about replacing him.
It was about making room for the version of me that’s still here 🤍

One closet for clothes.
One for shoes + bags.
Both closets for the woman I’m becoming.

This daily life moment mattered and I didn’t do it alone. Creating a space that feels peaceful, functional, and supportive is part of my healing.

Everything I used to organize this closet is linked.
Tap to shop my home organization finds 💙

#LTKselfcare #LTKHome #LTKdayinmylife

Parenting comes with so much pressure.
Pressure to be perfect.
Pressure to get it right every time.

But here’s the truth no one really says out loud:

This is everyone’s first time parenting. Every single time.

I don’t care if you have one child or ten.
Every child is different.
Different needs.
Different personalities.
Different love languages.
Different challenges.

You never parent two children the same, because they’re not the same child.

So no, it may not be your first rodeo as a parent, but it is your first time parenting this child, in this season, with what you know now.

And for those of us doing this while grieving…
Widowed.
Single.
In a relationship.

Give yourself grace.
You’re learning in real time.
You’re showing up.
And that matters more than perfection ever will.

If you needed this today, I see you. 💙

Save this for the days you’re being hard on yourself.

#LTKfoodie #LTKmomlife

If you’re coming to Miami… stay HERE 🌴✨

This Airbnb checked every single box.
Stylish, cozy, family-friendly, and close to everything we needed while celebrating my bonus baby’s birthday.

From the beautifully decorated rooms, to the open living space, to a host who actually responds fast 👏🏾

No stress.
No surprises.
Just a really good stay.

The exact Airbnb we stayed in is linked at the link in my bio + a few of my favorite travel essentials I always pack for trips like this are tagged here

Save this for your next Miami trip 💙

#LTKdayinmylife #LTKTravel #LTKvlog

I don’t talk about my big boy too much.
Teenagers live in their own world.

But my mama sent me his drawings from third grade.
And seeing how much he’s grown… how his talent has evolved…
I’m so proud of him.

And still, it’s bittersweet. 🥺

Because he used to draw with his dad.
He used to run and show him every picture.
So excited. So proud.

Now I get to watch him grow into something he loves and his dad isn’t here to see it.

That’s the kind of grief that doesn’t scream.
It just sits in your chest.

Proud mama.
Tender heart.
Both can exist. 💙

If you’re parenting through grief too, you’re not alone.

#LTKmomlife #LTKdayinmylife

Not because I quit.
Not because I gave up.

But because my mind needed a minute to catch up with my body. 😮‍💨

I sat there.
Breathed.
Let myself feel it.

And then I stayed.

An hour later, I was WORKING working.
That speed bag? She didn’t stand a chance today 🥊

Some days the win isn’t what you post.
It’s that you showed up anyway.

That still counts. 💙

If today’s win was just showing up, this is for you.

#LTKfitnessgoals #LTKdayinmylife #LTKActive

People call you strong like it’s a compliment.

What they don’t see is that strength, in grief, is often just survival in disguise.

I didn’t feel strong. I felt heavy. I felt tired. I felt like I didn’t have the option to fall apart, because life, kids, and responsibilities didn’t pause.

So sometimes strength looks like washing strawberries.
Like putting food away.
Like doing something small and normal while carrying something enormous.

If you’ve ever been called strong when you were actually just holding on, this is for you. 💙

#LTKHome #LTKstorytime #LTKdayinmylife

Week 2 of meal prepping and I already knew one thing…we were NOT doing chicken and ground beef again 😂

So we switched it up:
✔️ cabbage + sausage
✔️ salmon + zucchini + bell peppers
✔️ shrimp + bell peppers + green beans

Now let’s talk bell peppers 🌶️
AJ doesn’t like them cooked, but raw? He’ll eat every single one.

That’s why there are two meals with bell peppers, because meal prepping only works if your kids will actually eat it.

Everything came out amazing (duh 😌).
The fridge is stocked.
And the week just got a little easier.

Meal prepping…the New Orleans way. ⚜️💙

Sharing the kitchen tools + storage I use to make prep easier and keep things organized.

#LTKfoodie #LTKdayinmylife #LTKHome

Sometimes cleaning is survival.
Sometimes it’s control.
Sometimes it’s peace.

Today…it was all three.

A glass of wine first. 🍷
Then warm water.
Quiet moments.
Clearing the mess so my mind could breathe again.

Because sometimes you don’t clean to relax...you relax so you can clean.

Soft life doesn’t mean effortless.
It means choosing what brings you calm. 💙

Sharing a few of the tools that help me reset when my mind needs quiet.

#LTKHome #LTKdayinmylife #LTKstorytime

Y’all, I’m really trying to build better habits, not just in the gym, but after the gym too.

I realized real quick that if I don’t eat after my workouts, I’m basically wasting the effort I just put in. And I’m not working this hard just to sabotage myself later.

Normally I’d grab coffee and keep it moving, but coffee will have you skipping meals and calling it discipline 😅

So instead, I came home, cooked, and moved in something comfortable that actually supports my body.

Consistency over perfection. This is the year I get it right…for real. 💪🏾💙

What’s one habit you’re trying to be more consistent with right now?

#LTKselfcare #LTKdayinmylife #LTKActive

Some mornings really do feel like a miracle in motion. Pans sizzling, kids all over the place (Linkin), someone stealing a bite off a plate and my big boy right beside me helping breakfast come together.

Chaotic? A little.
Beautiful? Absolutely.

Moments like this are why I’ve been so intentional about creating a kitchen that feels calm, safe, and functional, especially on the loud mornings.

I never imagined this many little feet running through my kitchen, or that it would ever feel like home again, but somehow we fit. Somehow this life fits.

Watching my son step up in some of the ways his Dad used to hit a tender spot. Grief leaves gaps you don’t even have words for and then joy shows up in the smallest, loudest, messiest ways to fill them.

This is what it looks like when grief and joy walk side by side; loud, imperfect, full. And even here, even now, there’s room for joy to find us. 💙

Here’s to the slow, messy, precious moments that keep us going.
If you’re in a season like this too, I’m sending you a little strength for today.

If this landed on your heart today, save it for the mornings you need a reminder that you’re doing better than you think. 🫶🏾

#widowjourney #griefandjoy #motherhoodunfiltered #healinginrealtime #LaNolaMom

#LTKmorningroutine #LTKmomlife #LTKHome

Remixed this Amazon Christmas shirt for our cruise. Linking one that’s similar to the one we started with.

#LTKmomlife #LTKdayinmylife

Date night look that made me feel confident and comfortable. Linking the dress and heels here.

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