Comment Mean Girls for the exact words & tips to use if you’re experiencing this so you don’t lose your confidence (or your circle) in the process. And if one person can quietly shift an entire group’s perception of you, without ever saying anything technically wrong? That’s not “drama.” That’s social manipulation. Comment Outfit for links. And share your story below, if this has happened to you. As for the 4 Ways a Mean Girl Narcissist Gets Your Friends to Pull Away from You, she: -She plants concern (“she’s sweet but…) about you in casual chats just enough to make people question your stability, judgment, or motives, without ever saying anything directly. “I don’t want to talk behind her back, but…” “That was… kind of weird, right?” “She’s sweet but…” -She gets close to your friends one-on-one, subtly shifting loyalty until you’re left out of plans and they’re convinced it “just happened that way.” -When you finally speak up or set a boundary, she rewrites the story so you become the villain and suddenly, she’s the one everyone feels sorry for. -She tells half the story, the half that makes you look bad. Not the part about what she said or did that led up to it. About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.