Comment SEEN for my step by step on how to speak up without social fallout. Understanding this can help you stop taking it personally and start responding strategically. Comment Outfit for links. As for the 4 reasons why no one call out the Mean Girl: They fear becoming the next target. They learned that staying quiet feels safer. It’s not agreement, it’s self protection. When multiple people see what happened, responsibility diffuses. Each person thinks Someone else will say something but no one does. They don’t want to lose their spot in the group. We are wired to want to belong and belonging often wins. Mean girls often hold perceived status so they align themselves to maintain their own position. It’s not loyalty, it’s social positioning.