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Fall outfit ideas. Fall dresses, Amazon dresses, beige dress, denim dress. Comment Assertive for phrases to use & tips to use to help you stop taking it personally when someone dislikes you or excludes you for no reason. All found inside my members area, Assertive You. & Comment OUTFIT for links to what I’m wearing. As for the 3 reasons why you trigger people: -You did more with less. They can’t explain it, so they put you down. -They see you as competition. So “good for her,” becomes, “why not me?” So they go quiet or turn cold. -You show up happy & confident, just being yourself & suddenly the whispers or eye rolls start. You remind them of what they’re missing. People aren’t really triggered by you. They’re triggered by what being around you brings up in them. It’s not really you. It’s what they feel when you walk in the room. About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships. LTKStyleTip LTKNYFW LTKCon

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Today’s fall outfit for a talk at my son’s school.

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Comment MEAN GIRL for exact words & tips to use if you’re experiencing this so you don’t lose your confidence (or your circle) in the process. And if one person can quietly shift an entire group’s perception of you, without ever saying anything technically wrong? That’s not “drama.” That’s social manipulation.

Comment Outfit for links.

And share your story how you handled a mean girl that was running a smear campaign about you.

As for the 4 Reasons Everyone Buys the Mean Girl’s Lies Before Hearing Your Side, it’s because:

It was told first so it becomes the default “truth.” Meanwhile, the person being targeted looks defensive, shocked, or quiet which people confuse with guilt.

Social rejection is scarier. So we adopt the beliefs of the group to be safe & to belong even if it doesn’t sit right with us privately.

We process & remember negative information more quickly & for longer than positive details. We treat it like a warning, “remember this so you don’t get hurt.”

Once you’re labeled as “the problem,”
people start seeing everything they do through that lens. Even normal behavior looks like “proof.” And sharing outrage? It bonds people.
It’s gossip disguised as virtue.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, ACT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Leopard 🐆 outfit for date night.

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Comment FRIEND to join my How to Find the Right Friends Workshop this Saturday & learn how to finally stop walking the whole distance alone from day 1. You’ll learn:

-How to attract the right people
-How to stop over-functioning
-How to build mutual effort without begging for it

Comment OUTFIT for links!

Comment ASSERTIVE for instant access to my 2 newest guides: Fringe Friend No More & Go First: Your 6-Week Roadmap to Making the Right Friends, both inside my members’ area, Assertive You.

As for the 3 Reasons You Can’t Find Friends Who Meet You Halfway it’s because:

You don’t leave space for others to show up.
You fill every silence in conversation, fix awkward moments, and over explain to keep the peace. But when you do it all, you unintentionally train them to do less.

You confuse effort with connection.
You think the more you give, the stronger the friendship but real connection only works when the effort is mutual.

You make it too easy for people not to try.
You plan & text before anyone else even thinks to. You mean well but over time, they stop initiating because they know you’ll do it.

The right friendships will meet you halfway but first, you have to stop walking the whole distance for everyone else.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Comment Mean Girls for the exact words & tips to use if you’re experiencing this so you don’t lose your confidence (or your circle) in the process. And if one person can quietly shift an entire group’s perception of you, without ever saying anything technically wrong? That’s not “drama.” That’s social manipulation.

Comment Outfit for links.

And share your story below, if this has happened to you.

As for the 4 Ways a Mean Girl Covert Narcissist Rewrites the Story to Make You the Villain:

They label you before you can label them.
“She’s crazy.” “She’s dramatic.”
They say it first so when you finally speak up, it sounds like the story they already warned others about.

They twist your strengths into flaws.
Confident? She’s Intimidating.
Kind? She’s Fake.
Set boundaries? She’s cold.
They can’t handle what makes you respected, so they try to discredit it.

They’ll accuse you of copying them. Translation: she needs to stay the original so she can stay in control. This is about her need for power & hierarchy.

And they play the victim, loudly. They’ll hint that you’re the problem so others rush to comfort them. The goal isn’t truth, it’s sympathy and social power.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Comment FRIEND to learn the exact scripts & tips in my live workshop so you can stop forcing connections that drain you and start finding aligned friendships that feel mutual from the start. Because if you don’t change how you build friendships, you’ll keep creating the same one-sided connections and calling them friendship.

Saturday, October 25th at 10am EST
& will be available for my Assertive You community. To join, comment FRIEND & I’ll send you a message.

Comment OUTFIT for links to this dress

Comment ASSERTIVE for instant access to my 2 newest guides: Fringe Friend No More & Go First: Your 6-Week Roadmap to Making the Right Friends, both inside my members’ area, Assertive You.

& say Hi if you’re open to meeting new friends, you never know who will reply!

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Halloween decor

Ghost Halloween decorations, Funboy Halloween, blow up Halloween, hanging ghosts, smoke machine

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Comment Glasses for outfit links to these from @shopeyeconic @vspvisioncare

If you want to see how these would look on your face, they have an easy, virtual try on tool on eyeconic.com. They have a great selection from Longchamp and Kendra Scott to Calvin Klein and Lacoste (like the ones I’m wearing here). And you can connect your VSP vision benefits for extra savings on your new pairs.

People make up their mind about you in just 3 seconds & one of the first things they notice? Are your eyes. They tell your whole story, confidence, warmth, and approachability, all before you even say a word.

Put on something you don’t like, and you’re suddenly shrinking back, second guessing yourself, without even realizing what you put on was doing half the talking.

So next time you wonder if your glasses matter? They do. When you like how you look, you like how you feel. And when you feel good, you show up better everywhere, in friendships & all. And the right eyewear can make all the difference. #vspvisioncare

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Comment Mean Girl for exact tips & phrases to handle these scenarios, also found inside my member’s area Assertive You.

& Comment Outfit for outfit links.

As for the 4 Ways Boy Moms Are Mean Girl Moms Too:

-They treat “boy mom” as an identity badge & cluster only with other boy moms, turning it into a tribe outsiders can’t join.

-At birthday parties, they make parties “boys only,” as a way to quietly exclude moms who aren’t in their circle.

-You invite them to your child’s party, they ignore the chat then when your son asks their son why they didn’t come, he says they were “just at home doing nothing.” The real message? Your child isn’t worthy of being their child’s friend.

-At school pick-up, they make a big show of saying hello, sometimes loudly in front of others, then dart off before any real conversation can happen. It looks polite, but really keeps you at arm’s length.

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Comment Podcast for a deep dive conversation on friendships. Thank you @valerialipovetsky for having me on your @notalonepod!

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& Comment Friend for more phrases & tips to help you make the right friends & finally belong in your friendships. All inside my new 6-week roadmap where I walk you through the entire friend dating process so you can finally break this cycle and start finding friendships that last and feel like home.

& Comment OUTFIT for outfit links from @shopbop

As for the 3 things you can do now to make new friends & stop feeling lonely:

-Stop looking for your best friend and look for who is the most approachable person that you see most often.

-Then ask them out with a time bound invite.
Instead of “Let’s hang out sometime,” try: “Want to go for a walk tomorrow morning or this weekend with me?”

-And on the friend date, use the 50/50 rule: For every 5 minutes, notice, are you doing all the asking, or all the talking? Adjust so it’s balanced relationship from the start.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Xo,
Dr. C

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Comment Frenemy for scripts & tips to help you spot & handle frenemies. Frenemies don’t just cut you off, they give you just enough warmth to keep you close, while quietly undermining you and why frenemies are harder to spot than mean girls and keep you hooked in toxic dynamics.

And comment OUTFIT if you’d like links to what I’m wearing.

As for the 4 signs Your Friend Is Really a Frenemy & why that hurts more than a mean girl:

-They’re a selective cheerleader & will only cheer for you if it makes them look good
-Otherwise they’ll go silent when you succeed
-They stay close enough to benefit from you (status, invites, access) while also keeping you in “your place” with backhanded compliments or subtle digs.
-They secretly prefer you struggling. They feel closer to you because they feel superior when you’re down but flip when you start doing good.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

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Comment Friend for the exact words & tips to use in my new guide, Your 6-Week Roadmap to Find & Meet the Right Friends so you can finally break this cycle, stop being lonely in your friendships, and you can start finding the ones that last and feel like home.

And say Hi if you’re open to meeting new friends, you never know who will reply!

And comment OUTFIT for links.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Comment Friend for the words & strategies in my new guide, How to find & meet the right friends so you can finally break this cycle, and stop being a magnet for one-sided friendships and start finding the ones that last.

And say Hi if you’re open to meeting new friends, you never know who will reply!

And comment OUTFIT for links.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

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Comment “Mean Girls” for exact words & tips to handle these exact scenarios with mean girls, all inside my members area, Assertive You or my How to Handle Grown Mean Girls Without Creating Drama Guide. Mean girl breadcrumb games work because they mess with your mind, dangling belonging, then pulling it away. But once you see the pattern, you can stop chasing crumbs and start demanding the full meal.

& Comment OUTFIT for links to what I’m wearing.

As for the 4 Breadcrumb Games Mean Girls Play to Make Sure You Know You Don’t Belong, they:

-Hint at inviting you to the next group plan or event but the invite never comes & you find out on social media that it’s already happened.
-Then they claim they “forgot” to invite you but notice how they didn’t forget anyone else. That’s not forgetfulness…
-When they do invite you, they “forget” to tell you key details like a dress code change, meeting spot, or inside joke so you show up unprepared…
-And They run hot and cold on purpose, just enough warmth to pull you back in, then ice you out to remind you you’re not one of them.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

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Soccer mom outfit!

Wearing a tennis dress with lined shorts & a soccer mom sweater for my son’s soccer themed birthday party.

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Soccer themed birthday party

We had a soccer coach come to teach a class, we did face painting, piñata, and had a soccer jewelry/dress up station. They styled 4-6 brackets on each arm.

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Comment “Mean Girls” for exact words & tips to handle these situations, inside my members area, Assertive You or my How to Handle Grown Mean Girls Without Creating Drama Guide. This is the gaslighting game: they minimize, use excuses, and deflect until you’re left questioning yourself instead of their behavior.

& Comment OUTFIT for links to what I’m wearing.

As for the 4 Ways Mean Girls Gaslight You Into Thinking You’re the Problem:

They call you paranoid or say you’re overthinking things. It makes you doubt what’s right in front of you, until you stop trusting yourself.

They say you’re creating drama. You bring up what happened, and suddenly you’re the problem. That’s gaslighting, flipping your reality so speaking up feels wrong.

They hide behind excuses. “I was busy.” “I forgot.” “I thought you knew.” Convenient excuses that protect them from accountability.

They flip it into, “Well, what about when you…?” Now you’re defending yourself, and the real issue never gets addressed.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

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Comment Mean Girl for exact words & tips to help you take back your power & stop Mean Girl Moms. It’s not just in your head or just you, Mean Girls grew up & they became moms. Find all inside my Grown Mean Girl or Mean Girls in School guides or my member’s only area, Assertive You.

And if you’ve ever dealt with a mean girl, share your story below so you can help others feel seen.

& if you’re here for outfit details, comment OUTFIT for links.

As for the 4 tactics Mean Girl Moms use to make sure you don’t feel welcome when school starts:

-They pretend not to see you when you walk by.
-& if they do say hi, they give a fake smile that never reaches their eyes (telling you exactly how they feel).
-They badmouth or gossip about you so much in front of their kids that their kids no longer want to play with yours.
-& they make inside jokes from last year in the new class group chat so newcomers feel left out and to remind everyone who runs the chat

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

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Comment Friend for tips & scripts to help you deepen connection & help you show up differently so you can start being put at the center of your friendships. You’re not too sensitive, it’s just that when your sensitivity is paired with over-giving, silencing yourself, or keeping your needs invisible, it makes you more likely to slip into the Fringe friend role. All are inside my new Fringe Friend No More Guide or my member’s only area, Assertive You.

And say “Hi” if you’re open to finding new friends, you never know who might reply!

If you’re here for outfit details, comment OUTFIT for details.

I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Xo,
Dr. C

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Comment FRIEND for tips & scripts to help you deepen connection & help you show up differently so you can start being put at the center of your friendships. You’re not unlikeable, you’ve just slipped into the Fringe Friend role, all inside my new Fringe Friend No More Guide or my member’s only area, Assertive You.

And say “Hi” if you’re open to finding new friends or what feels like chosen family, you never know who might reply!

If you’re here for outfit details, comment OUTFIT for links.

I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

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Xo,
Dr. C

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Coaching clients outfit.

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Little black strapless dress. The skirt and bow part is attached to the dress and you can adjust the knot/bow.

Gold gladiator sandals, black sun hat

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Back to school set up!

How cute are these first day of preschool or first day of school banners.

School bus plates, color back to school placemats, crayon napkins

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Comment FRIEND for more tips and words you need to help you go from overlooked to genuinely valued in your friendships without guilt, drama, or losing yourself so you can finally belong, all inside my new Fringe Friend No More Guide.

And say “Hi” if you’re open to making new friends, you never know who might reply!

If you’re here for outfit & shoe details, comment OUTFIT for links.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Xo,
Dr. C

Comment “Mean Girl Moms” for exact words & tips to handle these situations, inside my members area, Assertive You.

Comment OUTFIT for links to what I’m wearing.

The subtle tactics mean girl moms use at back-to-school aren’t so random, they:

– Ask about your summer like it’s friendly conversation, but it’s really a status check to see who “won” summer.
– Say, “That’s so nice… did you only stay local?” code for not exactly impressive.
– Gush about all the vacations & playdates they had with other kids in the class, reminding you and your child you weren’t part of it.
– Light up the group chat celebrating class lists, until you share your child’s name and the energy shifts.

They do it to feel in control. If you freeze up in these moments and want to start the school year feeling ready, you’ll get the exact words, tips, Mean Girl guides for you and your child, plus a private space to ask me questions and get support from others going through it, inside my member’s area.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Comment Fringe for my new Fringe Guide that’s a self-paced course that helps you with the steps & exact scripts to go from overlooked to genuinely valued in both your friendships and family without guilt, drama, or losing yourself so you can finally feel like you belong.

And say “Hi” if you’re open to finding new friends or what feels like chosen family, you never know who might reply!

If you’re here for outfit details, comment OUTFIT for links.

I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Xo,
Dr. C

Yankees vs Marlins baseball game outfit

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Today’s outfit for Monster Jam

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Outfits from my latest Mean Girl reel.

Party outfit, feather top, floral dress, shell champagne glass, gold bag, party bag, swim cover up, beach bag, gold hoops, bamboo heels

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Cold play concert outfit

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Gold chain belt bag

What I wore to the Coldplay concert.

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The cutest little pink dress.

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Comment “Villa” for our villa name at the @thecolonypalmbeach & “Pink Hotel” for more tips & phrases to use to help your child remember their summer.

Restaurant: Swifty’s at The Colony Hotel

Our beautiful villa was so spacious and you had access to a private pool.

And comment Outfit for links.

Let’s be honest, most of us don’t remember every vacation we took as kids. What we remember are the feelings. The little rituals. And yet, as parents, we pour energy into making summer magical only to wonder later if it even stuck. Memory is made from emotion and repetition.

So instead of overpacking their day, repeat the moments that made them smile. It was helping them build sand castles everyday. Taking bubble baths that turned into giggle fits. Bed jumping in superhero capes. Sitting under the vines over pasta & ice cream. Playing the same card game every night. The hours in the pool where you let them stay a little bit longer. They’ll never forgot how it felt to stay at the pink hotel.