Comment “Mean Girls” for exact words & tips to handle these situations, inside my members area, Assertive You or my How to Handle Grown Mean Girls Without Creating Drama Guide. This is the gaslighting game: they minimize, use excuses, and deflect until you’re left questioning yourself instead of their behavior. & Comment OUTFIT for links to what I’m wearing. As for the 4 Ways Mean Girls Gaslight You Into Thinking You’re the Problem: They call you paranoid or say you’re overthinking things. It makes you doubt what’s right in front of you, until you stop trusting yourself. They say you’re creating drama. You bring up what happened, and suddenly you’re the problem. That’s gaslighting, flipping your reality so speaking up feels wrong. They hide behind excuses. “I was busy.” “I forgot.” “I thought you knew.” Convenient excuses that protect them from accountability. They flip it into, “Well, what about when you…?” Now you’re defending yourself, and the real issue never gets addressed. About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.