Comment “GOSSIP” for the signs to look for & what to say if you’ve ever wondered whether someone was trying to turn people against you. Comment Outfit for links. The real question isn’t whether someone gossips, it’s the why behind it. Are they sharing something because they want advice or connection? That’s pretty normal. Or are they slowly trying to damage someone’s reputation and turn people against them Because that’s when gossip turns into triangulation, when people pull others into a conflict instead of addressing it directly. And they do for validation, to recruit allies, or to share their side first so they appear like the innocent one. And those are two very different things.