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Kicking off Miami Swim Week with Monday Swimwear’s workout line, Monday Body. With Vita Sidorkina teaching a great class this morning.

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Kicking off Miami Swim Week with Monday Swimwear’s workout line, Monday Body. With Vita Sidorkina teaching a great class this morning. Workout sets, Pilates set, biker shorts, brown workout set, pink set, ballet top, workout top, pretty workout clothes LTKdayinmylife LTKootd LTKfitnessgoals

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We also stopped at Nordstrom for other options.

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Back to school shopping for the boys!

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Comment RESET if you’re ready to take your peace back, it’s one of the most valuable lessons you’ll ever learn. Ignoring them doesn’t work because if it did, you’d already be over it.

No one teaches us how to stop letting certain people take up so much space in our minds but it’s something that you can learn so you don’t have to just get over it.

If you’re ready to stop giving the wrong people so much of your energy, I’ll help you get there. That’s exactly what I help people learn.

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What’s the most ridiculous thing someone has confidently said about you that wasn’t true? Comment RUMOR for what to do & say if someone has been spreading a false narrative about you.

A woman I have never met commented on one of my last videos (the making friends & Majhong game night one) and said that my house and dress were AI. That’s entirely false. Frankly tho I’ll take the house part as a compliment (I’ve worked really hard on that landscaping).

She didn’t just leave one comment. She replied to multiple other people’s comments repeating the same claim. Then someone else commented, “I love your dress and your house.” And almost immediately, another person jumped in saying, “It’s AI.”

Not because they knew me or had ever been to my house (She was also a complete stranger) but Because someone else’s comment sounded confident enough that they accepted it as true.

That’s exactly how rumors & false narratives spread. One person says something with enough certainty, and suddenly other people stop questioning it and start repeating it.

So here’s your reminder: don’t confuse someone saying something confidently with credibility and being right. I’m a real girl (yes that was a pinocchio reference) and so is my house.

Before you believe something about another person, ask yourself, “Do I actually know this to be true, or am I just repeating what someone else confidently said?”

That’s how reputations get damaged, friendships fall apart, and misinformation spreads.

Can we please get back to thinking for ourselves?

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Just found out Rosie Assoulin dropped a collection at Target. Just ordered this set but thought I’d share the update.

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Comment Furniture for these @cityhome pieces

As for what to do to start making new friends, try this once a month.

First, invite two people who don’t know each other and have each bring one guest they think you’d love to meet.

Then, give everyone a small role (bring the game, drinks, cheese board). They’ll feel like they already belong & are part of the night, not just attending it.

Then rotate who hosts monthly game night. Now you’ve built a friend group that keeps meeting without depending on just you doing all of the work.

Comment Family for what to do next so you can start feeling like you finally belong in your own family.

As for the 4 things Family Mean Girls do so you feel like a Guest in your own family

-They make plans in front of you with other family members and don’t invite you.

-They turn family traditions into “their thing” so now you’re waiting for an invitation instead of automatically being included

-They share lies or half-truths about you, making it harder for your mother-in-law or other sisters-in-law to want to build a close relationship with you.

-You’re told the family group chat is “just immediate family” until you realize another sister-in-law is included.

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Comment Friend for what to do next, if you find that this is happening to you.

As for the 3 things that happen when you’re being pushed out of a group:

They start investing more in someone else but that relationship gets fast tracked. They’re suddenly close in a way that took you years and the speed is your tell.

They are surprisingly warm towards you but only in public & in front of others but then go cold & are distant when it’s just the two of you.

They stop circling back. A text goes unanswered, plans fall through, and instead of reconnecting later, they just let the distance grow.

Comment BELONG for the exact script I used with my kids after the movie.

Spoiler alert: theres mean girls in Toy Story 5 so stop watching if you haven’t seen it yet.

Bonnie gets made fun of for playing with toys, she plays hide & seek with her new friends and no one comes looking for her, there’s a group chat where these girls continue to make fun her. No surprise she stops wanting to play with her toys.

Mean girl behavior has this effect. It makes you question parts of yourself that never felt wrong before. The real lesson in this movie isn’t that she stops playing with tech. It’s about how easy it is to start believing you have to change who you are to belong.

After the movie, I had to have a conversation with my kids about this. Because one of the most painful mistakes we make whether you’re a child or a grown adult is trying to earn acceptance from people who only like us when we change. The right friends don’t require that.

The goal isn’t to change yourself to fit in, it’s to find people who don’t ask you to.

Wore this to see Ella Langley this past Friday in West Palm Beach.

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Beach day. Love this wide brimmed hat with ribbons attached. Offers great shade coverage.

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Just casually hanging with Cristiano Ronaldo and the entire Portuguese soccer team in Palm Beach.

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Comment PLAN if you’d like to learn how to reset your reputation before the next school year. I’ll message you how you can access my member’s area where you can access all of my resources plus a space to ask me direct questions anonymously.

As for the 4 things mean girl moms do at the end of the school year that you weren’t supposed to notice:

They invite everyone to the end of year party (except for you) & the way you find out about it is on social media.

Or you are invited & they avoid eye contact with you the entire time, acting like they’ve never met you.

No one also seems to want to sit next to you.

Then the woman that ignored you all year says “we have to do a playdate this summer!” She’s said it before & you know it’ll never happen because the plan was never the point.

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Palm beach escape with Vineyard Vines today

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Wear as a cover up or as a dress with heels.

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Comment ROOM for what to do & say in these scenarios so this doesn’t change how you’re seen in a group.

She pretends she doesn’t know you even though this isn’t the first or second time you’ve met. This signals to others you’re not important enough to remember.

She brings up plans you weren’t invited to then asks if you were there. She already knows the answer though, she’s just pointing it out. This signals to others you’re not really part of the group.

You have to be the one to approach her (she won’t on her own) and when you do she says hello then quickly turns her body away. This signals to others I know you just not here.

She’s warm one on one but in a group acts like she barely knows you. It’s only with you too. This signals to others you’re not someone I claim publicly.

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I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Xo,
Dr. C

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Comment “PLAN” & I’ll send you exactly what to say & do when this happens.

Spring break can be a visibility moment. Who you’re spending time with and what you hear about usually shows your place in the group. And it starts to show who’s really included.

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As for the 3 things Mean Girl Moms do during Spring Break:

She asks what you did for spring break & instead of a simple “how nice,” it turns into “why?” followed by an “oh” & suddenly you’re explaining why you chose what you did for vacation.

She ignores your playdate invites but then makes plans with someone else right in front of you, as if you’re not an option.

You introduced her to your friend group & vouched for her. And somehow by spring break she’s on the group trip & you’re watching from your stories. Now you’re questioning if you were ever really part of the group.

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Comment “GOSSIP” for the signs to look for & what to say if you’ve ever wondered whether someone was trying to turn people against you.

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The real question isn’t whether someone gossips, it’s the why behind it.

Are they sharing something because they want advice or connection? That’s pretty normal. Or are they slowly trying to damage someone’s reputation and turn people against them Because that’s when gossip turns into triangulation, when people pull others into a conflict instead of addressing it directly.

And they do for validation, to recruit allies, or to share their side first so they appear like the innocent one.

And those are two very different things.

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Today in Mexico.

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Today’s dress for a day at sea with Hunter Bell in Palm Beach.

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Comment SEEN for my step by step on how to speak up without social fallout. Understanding this can help you stop taking it personally and start responding strategically.

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As for the 4 reasons why no one call out the Mean Girl:

They fear becoming the next target. They learned that staying quiet feels safer. It’s not agreement, it’s self protection.

When multiple people see what happened, responsibility diffuses. Each person thinks Someone else will say something but no one does.

They don’t want to lose their spot in the group. We are wired to want to belong and belonging often wins.

Mean girls often hold perceived status so they align themselves to maintain their own position. It’s not loyalty, it’s social positioning.

Comment Mean Girl for scripts & tips if a friend group has ever made you question your place. I’ll send you tools to handle it without overthinking or over chasing.

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As for the 4 tactics a Queen Bee Mean Girl uses to stay in power and quietly isolate you

-She gets the women in the group to compete with one another by dropping comments that make everyone question where they stand. She stays central while everyone is competing for closeness.

-She “forgets” to invite you, leaves you off the group chat, and makes plans in front of you.
You start trying harder to stay included and that’s how she keeps control.

-She talks about you to others instead of to you. Now everyone goes through her for the story, and she stays central because whoever controls the information controls the group.

-She pulls away from anyone who speaks up. Others stay quiet and distance themselves from you so they don’t lose their spot, leaving you isolated.

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Wore this gorgeous plaid kaftan that’s perfect for colder temps, spring, and summer.

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Last night’s outfit to celebrate Shopbop’s Miami Pop Up

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Comment FRIEND for the words, tips, and a decision checklist that shows you how to respond, when to step back, and how to stop carrying the emotional work in your friendships in 2026.

Comment OUTFIT for links.

Mean girl behavior is breadcrumbing.
She reaches out just enough to keep you waiting, wondering, and over investing, often when she senses you pulling away. There’s contact, but no repair, follow-through, or real sense of where you stand. Whether intentional or not, the behavior keeps the power with her, maintaining access without closeness or accountability.

As for the 3 Things Mean Girl Behavior is NOT…

It’s NOT “being nice,” it’s avoidance. Not replying to texts over time isn’t kindness. Staying quiet can feel more polite than saying, “I’m not interested.” But silence feels kind to them, not to you.

It’s NOT “being busy” or “going through something.” People who are busy or struggling don’t disappear and reappear without repair. They might answer late but when they do, it’s warm. They don’t leave you guessing where you stand. They come back and say something like, “Sorry I went quiet, I’ve been going through a lot.”

It’s NOT ADHD or Neurodivergence. Interest is there but follow through is messy. ADHD and neurodivergence can make replies inconsistent or delayed but the care is still there. They forget and come back, then apologize for the delay. It’s unorganized, not intentional.

Comment FRIEND for the words & tips that show you how to tell the difference between someone who’s just trying to be polite and someone who keeps you on standby with on-off attention so you can stop guessing and invest wisely. Because polite people don’t promise closeness. Mean girl patterns hint at connection, then don’t follow through. All inside Assertive YOU (I also take consult questions there too).

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Not everyone who’s polite wants to be your friend and that’s not mean. The problem starts when politeness feels like potential… and you start overinvesting. The red flag isn’t disinterest.
It’s confusion, inconsistency, and subtle exclusion. If you’re constantly wondering where you stand, something is likely off.

As for the 4 Signs They Don’t Want to Be Friends (They’re Just Polite, Not a Mean Girl)

Sign 1: Friendly when you run into them, but it doesn’t extend beyond that = good manners, no interest. They hint at plans or closeness, then disappear when follow through is needed = mean girl pattern.

Sign 2: Multiple texts go unanswered over time = good manners, no interest. They reply just enough to keep the door cracked then disappear again = mean girl pattern.

Sign 3: They never text first. Never suggest plans. Never circle back. Zero initiation = good manners, no interest. They initiate selectively, only when it benefits them (information, access, optics) = mean girl pattern.

Sign 4: If space forms, they let it stay = good manners, no interest. They periodically pull you back in with compliments, warmth, or nostalgia then drop you again, leaving you unsure where you stand = mean girl pattern.

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Comment MEAN GIRL for the words and tips to test what’s really going on before you get iced out or quietly pushed out of the group. Early red flags aren’t warnings to leave, they’re signals to adjust before the pattern locks in.

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4 Mean Girl Red Flags to Spot Early in 2026 So You Don’t Doubt Yourself

When you’re around them, you consistently leave interactions confused. That confusion keeps you sticking around, so you doubt yourself instead of the situation.

You start editing yourself, re-reading texts, changing your words, and holding back. You don’t realize you’re walking on eggshells.

They talk like you’re close in front of others, but act distant one-on-one.

Early on, you notice you’re the one changing, reaching out less, lowering expectations, or staying flexible just to avoid being sidelined.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

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Outdoor ice skating rink & snow machine

Today we celebrated my son’s 3rd birthday with a monster trucks in the snow themed party.

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