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Beach day. Love this wide brimmed hat with ribbons attached. Offers great shade coverage.

Mom hat, beach hat

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Beach day. Love this wide brimmed hat with ribbons attached. Offers great shade coverage. Mom hat, beach hat LTKmomlife LTKootd LTKselfcare

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Portofino Sunglasses | Devon Windsor

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Comment BELONG for the exact script I used with my kids after the movie.

Spoiler alert: theres mean girls in Toy Story 5 so stop watching if you haven’t seen it yet.

Bonnie gets made fun of for playing with toys, she plays hide & seek with her new friends and no one comes looking for her, there’s a group chat where these girls continue to make fun her. No surprise she stops wanting to play with her toys.

Mean girl behavior has this effect. It makes you question parts of yourself that never felt wrong before. The real lesson in this movie isn’t that she stops playing with tech. It’s about how easy it is to start believing you have to change who you are to belong.

After the movie, I had to have a conversation with my kids about this. Because one of the most painful mistakes we make whether you’re a child or a grown adult is trying to earn acceptance from people who only like us when we change. The right friends don’t require that.

The goal isn’t to change yourself to fit in, it’s to find people who don’t ask you to.

Wore this to see Ella Langley this past Friday in West Palm Beach.

Country concert outfit, Ella Langley concert outfit, flowy top, sheer top, silk shorts, Amazon summer outfit, rodeo outfit

#LTKdayinmylife #LTKootd #LTKgrwm

Just casually hanging with Cristiano Ronaldo and the entire Portuguese soccer team in Palm Beach.

Mom swimsuit, one piece swimsuit, swim set, European summer outfit, beach set

#LTKSwim #LTKPetite #LTKootd

Comment PLAN if you’d like to learn how to reset your reputation before the next school year. I’ll message you how you can access my member’s area where you can access all of my resources plus a space to ask me direct questions anonymously.

As for the 4 things mean girl moms do at the end of the school year that you weren’t supposed to notice:

They invite everyone to the end of year party (except for you) & the way you find out about it is on social media.

Or you are invited & they avoid eye contact with you the entire time, acting like they’ve never met you.

No one also seems to want to sit next to you.

Then the woman that ignored you all year says “we have to do a playdate this summer!” She’s said it before & you know it’ll never happen because the plan was never the point.

Kicking off Miami Swim Week with Monday Swimwear’s workout line, Monday Body. With Vita Sidorkina teaching a great class this morning.

Workout sets, Pilates set, biker shorts, brown workout set, pink set, ballet top, workout top, pretty workout clothes

#LTKdayinmylife #LTKootd #LTKfitnessgoals

Last night’s outfit! F1 party with Paris Hilton.

Summer outfit, summer skirt, polka dot outfit

#LTKdayinmylife #LTKootd #LTKgrwm

Cutest crochet dress for summer or Memorial Day weekend! Would make a cute Mother’s Day gift too.

#LTKmomlife #LTKootd #LTKMothersDay

Palm beach escape with Vineyard Vines today

White shift dress, spring dress, horse dress, Kentucky derby outfit, spring hat, summer hat

#LTKootd #LTKdayinmylife #LTKPetite

The chicest kaftan

Wear as a cover up or as a dress with heels.

Spring break, Shopbop sale, Easter outfit, vacation outfit

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Comment ROOM for what to do & say in these scenarios so this doesn’t change how you’re seen in a group.

She pretends she doesn’t know you even though this isn’t the first or second time you’ve met. This signals to others you’re not important enough to remember.

She brings up plans you weren’t invited to then asks if you were there. She already knows the answer though, she’s just pointing it out. This signals to others you’re not really part of the group.

You have to be the one to approach her (she won’t on her own) and when you do she says hello then quickly turns her body away. This signals to others I know you just not here.

She’s warm one on one but in a group acts like she barely knows you. It’s only with you too. This signals to others you’re not someone I claim publicly.

Plaid dress, swim cover up, dress, kaftan, vacation outfit, brown heels

I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Xo,
Dr. C

#LTKFestival #LTKmomlife #LTKPetite

Comment “PLAN” & I’ll send you exactly what to say & do when this happens.

Spring break can be a visibility moment. Who you’re spending time with and what you hear about usually shows your place in the group. And it starts to show who’s really included.

Comment Outfit for links

As for the 3 things Mean Girl Moms do during Spring Break:

She asks what you did for spring break & instead of a simple “how nice,” it turns into “why?” followed by an “oh” & suddenly you’re explaining why you chose what you did for vacation.

She ignores your playdate invites but then makes plans with someone else right in front of you, as if you’re not an option.

You introduced her to your friend group & vouched for her. And somehow by spring break she’s on the group trip & you’re watching from your stories. Now you’re questioning if you were ever really part of the group.

Spring break, swimsuit, mom outfit cover up, resort wear, vacation outfit

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#LTKFestival #LTKSwim #LTKmomlife

Tonight with Longchamp

Spring dress
Beige purse
Spring break outfit
Spring outfit

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Comment “GOSSIP” for the signs to look for & what to say if you’ve ever wondered whether someone was trying to turn people against you.

Comment Outfit for links.

The real question isn’t whether someone gossips, it’s the why behind it.

Are they sharing something because they want advice or connection? That’s pretty normal. Or are they slowly trying to damage someone’s reputation and turn people against them Because that’s when gossip turns into triangulation, when people pull others into a conflict instead of addressing it directly.

And they do for validation, to recruit allies, or to share their side first so they appear like the innocent one.

And those are two very different things.

A one piece swimsuit and skirt set that doubles as an evening look.

This swimsuit fit so good! Plan on wearing it all summer long and so mom friendly too.

Cover up, resort wear, spring break outfit, vacation outfit

#LTKmomlife #LTKFestival #LTKSwim

Today in Mexico.

Swimwear, mom friendly swimsuit, crochet bodysuit, spring break outfit, bandana, hair bandana, Devon Windsor

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Today’s dress for a day at sea with Hunter Bell in Palm Beach.

Spring dress, spring dress, mom dress, baby shower dress, bridal shower dress

#LTKdayinmylife #LTKootd #LTKgrwm

Comment SEEN for my step by step on how to speak up without social fallout. Understanding this can help you stop taking it personally and start responding strategically.

Comment Outfit for links.

As for the 4 reasons why no one call out the Mean Girl:

They fear becoming the next target. They learned that staying quiet feels safer. It’s not agreement, it’s self protection.

When multiple people see what happened, responsibility diffuses. Each person thinks Someone else will say something but no one does.

They don’t want to lose their spot in the group. We are wired to want to belong and belonging often wins.

Mean girls often hold perceived status so they align themselves to maintain their own position. It’s not loyalty, it’s social positioning.

Comment Mean Girl for scripts & tips if a friend group has ever made you question your place. I’ll send you tools to handle it without overthinking or over chasing.

Comment Outfit for links.

As for the 4 tactics a Queen Bee Mean Girl uses to stay in power and quietly isolate you

-She gets the women in the group to compete with one another by dropping comments that make everyone question where they stand. She stays central while everyone is competing for closeness.

-She “forgets” to invite you, leaves you off the group chat, and makes plans in front of you.
You start trying harder to stay included and that’s how she keeps control.

-She talks about you to others instead of to you. Now everyone goes through her for the story, and she stays central because whoever controls the information controls the group.

-She pulls away from anyone who speaks up. Others stay quiet and distance themselves from you so they don’t lose their spot, leaving you isolated.

Pink heels, party shoes, pink crystal shoes, pink dress, Valentine’s Day outfit, Galentine’s Day outfit

#LTKNYFW #LTKValentine #LTKgrwm

Last night with Shopbop.

Wore this gorgeous plaid kaftan that’s perfect for colder temps, spring, and summer.

Date night, girls night, baby shower dress, party dress

#LTKNYFW #LTKootd #LTKgrwm

Last night’s outfit to celebrate Shopbop’s Miami Pop Up

Spring dress, green dress, brown heels

#LTKNYFW #LTKootd #LTKgrwm

Comment FRIEND for the words, tips, and a decision checklist that shows you how to respond, when to step back, and how to stop carrying the emotional work in your friendships in 2026.

Comment OUTFIT for links.

Mean girl behavior is breadcrumbing.
She reaches out just enough to keep you waiting, wondering, and over investing, often when she senses you pulling away. There’s contact, but no repair, follow-through, or real sense of where you stand. Whether intentional or not, the behavior keeps the power with her, maintaining access without closeness or accountability.

As for the 3 Things Mean Girl Behavior is NOT…

It’s NOT “being nice,” it’s avoidance. Not replying to texts over time isn’t kindness. Staying quiet can feel more polite than saying, “I’m not interested.” But silence feels kind to them, not to you.

It’s NOT “being busy” or “going through something.” People who are busy or struggling don’t disappear and reappear without repair. They might answer late but when they do, it’s warm. They don’t leave you guessing where you stand. They come back and say something like, “Sorry I went quiet, I’ve been going through a lot.”

It’s NOT ADHD or Neurodivergence. Interest is there but follow through is messy. ADHD and neurodivergence can make replies inconsistent or delayed but the care is still there. They forget and come back, then apologize for the delay. It’s unorganized, not intentional.

Comment FRIEND for the words & tips that show you how to tell the difference between someone who’s just trying to be polite and someone who keeps you on standby with on-off attention so you can stop guessing and invest wisely. Because polite people don’t promise closeness. Mean girl patterns hint at connection, then don’t follow through. All inside Assertive YOU (I also take consult questions there too).

And comment OUTFIT for links

Not everyone who’s polite wants to be your friend and that’s not mean. The problem starts when politeness feels like potential… and you start overinvesting. The red flag isn’t disinterest.
It’s confusion, inconsistency, and subtle exclusion. If you’re constantly wondering where you stand, something is likely off.

As for the 4 Signs They Don’t Want to Be Friends (They’re Just Polite, Not a Mean Girl)

Sign 1: Friendly when you run into them, but it doesn’t extend beyond that = good manners, no interest. They hint at plans or closeness, then disappear when follow through is needed = mean girl pattern.

Sign 2: Multiple texts go unanswered over time = good manners, no interest. They reply just enough to keep the door cracked then disappear again = mean girl pattern.

Sign 3: They never text first. Never suggest plans. Never circle back. Zero initiation = good manners, no interest. They initiate selectively, only when it benefits them (information, access, optics) = mean girl pattern.

Sign 4: If space forms, they let it stay = good manners, no interest. They periodically pull you back in with compliments, warmth, or nostalgia then drop you again, leaving you unsure where you stand = mean girl pattern.

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Comment MEAN GIRL for the words and tips to test what’s really going on before you get iced out or quietly pushed out of the group. Early red flags aren’t warnings to leave, they’re signals to adjust before the pattern locks in.

Comment Outfit for links.

4 Mean Girl Red Flags to Spot Early in 2026 So You Don’t Doubt Yourself

When you’re around them, you consistently leave interactions confused. That confusion keeps you sticking around, so you doubt yourself instead of the situation.

You start editing yourself, re-reading texts, changing your words, and holding back. You don’t realize you’re walking on eggshells.

They talk like you’re close in front of others, but act distant one-on-one.

Early on, you notice you’re the one changing, reaching out less, lowering expectations, or staying flexible just to avoid being sidelined.

About Christie, Dr. C: I’m a Johns Hopkins-trained clinical psychologist with a background in CBT, DBT, behavioral psychology, and motivational models. I blend evidence-based strategies with lived experience to help you handle mean girls, navigate parenting challenges, set real boundaries, make new friends, and stop shrinking in your friendships.

Holiday outfit idea. This green velvet suit fit like a glove.

#LTKGiftGuide #LTKPetite #LTKHoliday

Outdoor ice skating rink & snow machine

Today we celebrated my son’s 3rd birthday with a monster trucks in the snow themed party.

#LTKHome #LTKGiftGuide #LTKKids

Easy winter outfit. Just swap out the shoes for boots.

Ridging leggings, winter leggings, skiing leggings, winter jacket, grey sweater

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A well set table + well set boundaries = your peace. Comment Furniture for links & pieces are from @cityfurniture

Want more scripts? Comment Assertive & I’ll send you to my member’s area where you can learn all the words & tips you need to help you take back your power this holiday season.

And comment OUTFIT for a link to this black blazer romper (not a dress).

Winter outfit idea.

Winter layering.

Brown pants, brown leather vest, brown suede jacket

#LTKHoliday #LTKootd #LTKWorkwear

Winter skirt set. Wore this set for Thanksgiving. Can easily be paired with a black turtleneck and black stockings for layering for the winter.

#LTKHoliday #LTKWorkwear #LTKootd

Caraway nontoxic pots are on sale.

#LTKHome #LTKGiftGuide #LTKCyberWeek

Beige blazer dress. Beige heels.

Holiday outfit idea, party outfit

#LTKHoliday #LTKootd #LTKPetite

Comment Mean Girl for exact words & tips to use, so you can take back your power this holiday season instead of freezing up, all found inside my member’s area Assertive You.

And comment Bootcamp to join my Mean Girl Bootcamp when she’s in your family this Tuesday at noon. Can’t join? I’ll send you a link to rewatch it before Thanksgiving!

Comment Outfit for links.

As for the 4 tactics Mean girls in your family pull during the holidays to make you dread family gatherings

She always brings the drama & somehow ruins the day even after you’ve been tiptoeing around her for hours. Because if there’s chaos, the whole day ends up revolving around her.

She talks about plans with the other sisters or sister in laws right in front of you (shopping dates, girls dinners), as if you were never an option. She does it so you know where you fit in the family pecking order.

She stirs the pot by giving each sibling a slightly different version of the same story, always starting with, “Don’t tell them I said this.”
So everyone walks in tense and confused, and no one knows why the room feels off, except her.

She loves tossing subtle digs your way, then watching your reaction like a hawk. And if you call it out, you get a “I’m just kidding.” Except she wasn’t.

Holiday party outfit idea

Black romper, white romper, tuxedo romper, New Year’s Eve outfit, holiday outfit #LTKParties

#LTKHoliday #LTKPetite

The other night with @patbo & @camilacoelho